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NIH grant studies LGBT smoking cessation

cigarette, gay news, Washington Blade

(Washington Blade photo by Phil Reese)

ALEXANDRIA, Va. — The National Institutes of Health issued a $536,526 grant to the University of Illinois for a two-year program ending in July to study smoking cessation among LGBT people, CNS News, a division of Media Research Center, reported last week.

“The purpose of this study is to develop and evaluate the benefits of culturally targeted smoking cessation intervention for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender smokers,” the NIH grant description said. “Findings will contribute to the scientific literature on reducing smoking-related health disparities among underserved populations.”

The funding began on Sept. 30, 2010 and will conclude on July 31, 2013, CNS reported.

Typing and telepathy

Ghost Writer, Susan Lynskey, Helen Hedman, Paul Morella, Gay News, Washington Blade

From left, Susan Lynskey, Helen Hedman and Paul Morella in ‘Ghost-Writer.’ (Photos by Christopher Banks; courtesy MetroStage)

‘Ghost-Writer’
Through June 16
MetroStage
1201 North Royal Street Alexandria
$45-$55
800-494-8497
metrostage.org

It’s not every day that a respectable secretary with a talent for punctuation becomes fodder for New York City’s tabloid press, but in Michael Hollinger’s 2010 drama “Ghost-Writer” (now at MetroStage) that’s just what happens.

When popular novelist Franklin Woolsey (Paul Morella) drops dead in the middle of dictating his latest book, loyal typist Myra Babbage (Susan Lynkskey) forges ahead, channeling her beloved boss’ words from the beyond. While Myra’s unorthodox approach to wrapping things up is a hit with Woolsey’s editor and the curious public, the novelist’s jealous widow is none too thrilled.

Set in 1919 Manhattan, the odd workplace tale unfolds in Woolsey’s comfortable but unpretentious studio. Myra is seated at her typing table facing an unseen investigator (the audience). In wordy monologue and flashbacks she relays just how she came to be a literary medium.

Fresh out of secretarial school, Myra’s hired to take dictation from the businesslike Woolsey. A whiz at the clunky manual typing machine, she never misses a word. As weeks become months and then years, she respectfully but firmly corrects his punctuation and eerily develops the ability to anticipate his prose. The process moves to the outskirts of collaboration, and a close but chaste relationship evolves. There is no longer any mention of Thursday night dance classes or potential husbands. As Myra becomes more heavily immersed in Woolsey and his work, outside distractions fade away. Her focus narrows.

Occasionally the formidable and fashionably turned out Mrs. Woolsey (Helen Hedman) pays unannounced visits to her husband’s studio. A dilettante poet who once transcribed her husband’s novels by hand, she resents her husband’s secretary. After all it is Myra with whom Woolsey spends the lion’s share of his waking hours. And while she finds some comfort that Myra is less pretty than her predecessor, Mrs. Woolsey would still rather she go away. But Myra isn’t cowed; the studio is her domain and Woolsey belongs partly to her too.

“Ghost-Writer” is cleanly staged by John Vreeke (who is gay). In lesser hands, this delicately rendered memory play/ghostly mystery/love story might be a sappy mishmash, but Vreeke’s direction is insightfully keen and well-ordered and his outstanding three-person cast gives thoughtful, restrained performances. He’s also assembled a particularly cohesive design team. Together Alexander Keen’s evocative lighting, Jane Fink’s suggestion of walls and Robert Garner’s distant dance class music and steam whistle from the East river, play beautifully to the concepts of memory and the metaphysical.

At first glance, Lynskey’s Myra is the picture of no-nonsense practicality — pulled back hair and plain attire. But keep looking and you’ll detect a sly smile and twinkly eye behind the steel-rimmed spectacles; her character is no mere typing automaton. Her Myra has an inner world filled with romance and the flourishes of art and music. For her, awaiting Woolsey’s next utterance is an exquisite pleasure. Typing each page is an adventure. Lynskey captures all the layers.

Morella is terrific as Woolsey. He affectively melts from brusque boss to kindly colleague. And as Mrs. Woolsey, Hedman is a marvelous balance of overbearing and vulnerable. It’s a touching performance.

“Ghost Writer” is inspired by the real life happenings of famed gay novelist Henry James and his longtime secretary Theodora Bosanquet. Like Myra, the devoted Bosanquet did what she could to keep the literary master’s words flowing. Unlike Myra, she didn’t hold a torch for her boss. Bosanquet reportedly preferred women.

Proud to be an ‘A’ at Capital Pride

By ATIMA OMARA-ALWALA

This weekend, members of the LGTBQQAA community will descend on Washington for America’s third-largest Pride festival. For many years, I have participated in the mission of obtaining equality for all Americans. Within the community’s string of letters, I’m very glad to be counted as the final “A” — the allies.

As the Pride Parade makes its way from Dupont Circle to Logan Circle, community members and supporters have a lot to celebrate. Twelve states and Washington, D.C. have now approved marriage equality. But, we are pushing for more.

As the Mr. & Miss Capital Pride pageant gets underway at Phase 1, a clerk at the Supreme Court, about four miles away, is, I hope, working on a majority opinion that will overturn the Defense of Marriage Act, thereby opening the federal rights and responsibilities of marriage to all couples.

Pride events across the country have a lot to celebrate but I think it is important to take a quick look back at how we have finally arrived at this place.

For those of us that love political polls and messaging documents, Third Way’s Director of the Social Policy & Politics Program, Lanae Erickson Hatalsky, has written one of the best message guidance ever seen. Based on their several polls, including Third Way’s July 2011 poll, they found that a commitment narrative is the most effective in transitioning the sentiment of voters to favor marriage equality.

A message carried by straight couples about gay couples wanting to join the institution of marriage has proven, in polling and in practice, to be the most effective argument to shift public opinion.

While I would like to claim all the credit for us “straight surrogates,” a huge driver of national support for marriage equality is our nation’s demographic shift. Older Americans are no longer with us and their hetero-normative views have not been passed down. As younger Americans that have grown up with gay and lesbian couples take to the ballot box, the pendulum is swinging to the right side of history.

As of March 2013, poll after poll showed a majority of Americans supporting marriage equality including 73 percent of Americans under the age of 30 per CBS. The ABC/Washington Post cut their data differently, finding extremely high support among younger Democrats 18-49 (73 percent) and Republicans 18-49 (52 percent).

However, the rest of the GOP has not joined younger Republicans, Democrats and independents in supporting equality. But, hope springs eternal and middle-aged and older Republicans both showed significant drops in opposition to marriage equality.

Still, as a proud member of the Democratic Party, I’m thrilled to state that a majority of Democrats in all age groups support marriage equality.

The LGTBQQAA have much to celebrate and I will certainly be lifting my brunch mimosa to the equality dozen this year but we still have a long way to go.

My gay and lesbian brothers and sisters in 37 states still cannot join the institution of marriage that my husband Clay and I joined last year. The Supreme Court still needs to overturn DOMA and 29 states still allow employers to fire LGTBQQA employees.  I must sadly confess that I live in one, the Commonwealth of Virginia.

Virginia continues to be on the wrong side of history and the wrong side of the Potomac. I love the Commonwealth and it is my home but I have to say: “Seriously, Richmond, come on! Maryland and D.C. have equality can we maybe get our act together? We aren’t the cool kids anymore — we’re vintage, in a bad way.”

So this Pride weekend, let’s all celebrate our successes and get back to work on Monday!

Atima Omara-Alwala is vice president of the Young Democrats of America; she is running to be the organization’s first African-American president. She is a former board member of the LGBT Democrats of Virginia and lives in Arlington with her husband, Clay.

New cycling club debuts

OutRiders, Arlington, Gay News, Washington Blade

A recent gathering of the new OutRiders Arlington group. (Photo courtesy OutRiders)

Every year at Capital Pride, the LGBT sports teams of Washington take over a section of the Sunday Pride Festival to promote their clubs. A common question over the years has been, “Why aren’t there more options for cycling?”

CHECK OUT ALL OF OUR PRIDE COVERAGE HERE!

A few clubs such as Adventuring have offered recreational biking as an offshoot of their other activities, but none have focused solely on cycling. Last month, the OutRiders Arlington emerged as a new club to fill the cycling void. The group was founded by Scott Binde and Lee Mitchell and both are avid cyclists with a long history of leading bike rides.

“Both of us have a passion for cycling,” Binde says. “We have been plugged into the D.C. cycling community for years and even our vacations include cycling.”

There are no fees to ride with the cyclists and the group meets every Tuesday at 6:15 p.m. at the Clarendon Metro Station. There have only been two rides so far and the group is already attracting a diverse base of about 15 cyclists.

“We are looking to draw LGBT bike enthusiasts along with their straight allies,” Binde says.

The rides vary in difficulty and range from 12-25 miles. They utilize multi-use trails in the Arlington area, connecting one trail to the next and also venturing into bike-friendly residential areas. Depending on the amount of sunlight available, the treks last at least 90 minutes and all rides are pre-ridden by the leaders of the group.

The OutRiders will continue the bike series through August, and possibly longer based on interest. They are considering the possibility of weekend rides.

“Cycling is so accessible and most everyone knows how to bike,” Binde says. “We wanted to create something informal versus a highly structured sporting club.”

The next ride is Tuesday and the route is an 18-mile, moderately hilly loop which will pass by Ford Ward, an earthen Civil War era fort, and utilize the scenic Holmes Run Trail.

The wooded (yet paved) trail includes a forded stream crossing where sand and gravel can sometimes accumulate. Riders may want to leave their skinny tire bicycle at home or just walk their bike over the few feet of this section.

The group will convene by 6:15 p.m. at the Clarendon Metro station elevator entrance (Wilson Blvd. and Hudson St.), and the ride starts promptly at 6:30 p.m. Bring helmet and water.  Free on-street parking is available.

After completing the ride each week, the cyclists get together for optional socializing at spandex-friendly restaurants in the Clarendon area.

Contact the ride leader for additional information at vabikelegs@yahoo.com. You can also RSVP at their meetup site by searching OutRiders Arlington.

Show your pride, take a ride.

Staying in tune

Indigo Girls, Music, Amy Ray, Emily Saliers, Gay News, Washington Blade

The Indigo Girls are Amy Ray, left, Emily Saliers. (Photo by Jeremy Cowart; courtesy Propeller Publicity)

Indigo Girls/Joan Baez concert
Wolf Trap
1551 Trap Road
Vienna, VA
Wednesday
8 p.m.
$28-$42
wolftrap.org
indigogirls.com

It’s easy to take the Indigo Girls for granted. They keep the albums coming every couple years, play the D.C. region often and despite their insistence on keeping things fresh, still manage to feel — and sound — like sonic comfort food.

From her home in Atlanta on the eve of embarking on a 10-date mini-tour with Joan Baez (sandwiched between a slew of other dates), Emily Saliers took a few minutes with us and was as unpretentious and down-to-earth as she’s always been. They play Wolf Trap Wednesday night. Her comments have been slightly edited for length.

BLADE: Why Joan, why now?

SALIERS: Our manager knows Joan’s and we’ve been friends for about 10 years and have toured with her before. The timing was just right and Joan was wanting to do it.

 

BLADE: Full band?

SALIERS: Yeah, we’re bringing the Shadowboxers with us. They’re a great group of young guys and an up-and-coming band. Usually they open for us but since this will be a full show with two sets, they’re the house band. We call Joan our matriarch and then these guys are younger so I really like the intergenerational aspects of the tour.

 

BLADE: Will you be collaborating with Joan on anything or is it separate sets?

SALIERS: We’ll do ours first, then Joan, then we’ll do a handful of songs together.

 

BLADE: Picked the songs yet for the collaborations?

SALIERS: We know we’ll do “Don’t Think Twice It’s All Right” but the others are still in the works. We might do a couple Indigo Girls songs and a couple of Joan’s. There’ll be others we might do some nights and others on other nights.

 

BLADE: For some musical acts — perhaps even most — the general public tends to heavily identify the band or singer with the era in which it had its biggest commercial success. This would be true of both Joan Baez and Indigo Girls. Yet fans know there’s usually so much more to an artist than one era. Does this bother you?

SALIERS: I know that kind of typecasting musically exists. It doesn’t really bother me although I wish people would be a little more broad minded when it comes to such things. We continue to put out new records every couple of years and we’ve had our fingers all over the board in all kinds of genres. I think our discography proves we’re still viable and relevant. For a long time we were just the lesbian band or people just thought of the skits on “Saturday Night Live.” But Amy and I would be so bored if that’s all we were and we feel we’ve done our very best work since then. It’s the same thing in many ways with Joan. She was and still is a tremendous activist and it just goes on and on and on. She’s been very brave and courageous in dangerous times and she’s been true to her vision of social justice. It’s not just old stuff from the ‘70s. She’s that kind of person to us and hopefully we can inspire people the same way.

 

BLADE: So many acts now are just touring on their catalog or might do an EP here or there yet the Indigo Girls, like you said, have kept up with adding to your discography. Has there been any sense that they’ve yielded diminishing returns in some ways or are they creatively satisfying enough for you to have kept at it?

SALIERS: We really don’t make any money selling records, I’ll tell you that. Those days are long, long gone. But I get so fucking excited when an artist I love has a new album out so we try to think of the fans and approach it that way. It’s important for the fans and also for our own musical growth. And yes, we have to think economically, which is a total bummer. There were some glory days when we didn’t have to. It does suck sometimes. Like just recently we were going to do a symphonic record and right in the middle of planning it, the union law changed for the musicians and the studio scale just took it totally out of our league. It’s a shame because we were dying to make that record, but of course we’re also not going to go in the hole for tens of thousands of dollars to do it. It’s just a very different landscape than we came up in so we make a lot of tactful decisions based on economics while also honoring our belief that we have to keep making new music.

 

BLADE: You play D.C. regularly. How are audiences here different from other comparable-size regions?

SALIERS: D.C. audiences are really distinctive. Like Florida in the sense that, well, it’s just so different from anyplace else. Just kind of this strange, exotic place. D.C. has been very loyal to us and we love playing Wolf Trap which in some ways I can’t believe we can still play it because it’s one of the larger venues but we always do well there and we have such a great time. With many amphitheaters the spacial difference can really sop up a lot of the energy but that doesn’t happen at Wolf Trap.

 

BLADE: There are many, many lesbian singer/songwriter-type musicians who have and have had loyal followings in certain circles but never cracked the mainstream zeitgeist in any way. How do you think you and Amy managed to do that?

SALIERS: I think a lot of it was really just timing. We were signed in the era when you had people like Tracy Chapman and Melissa Etheridge and Jewel and Suzanne Vega and a slew of women with acoustic guitars selling a bunch of records. We got signed at that time and radio was friendly to us then. REM gave us a leg of their tour which really helped with visibility. If we came out now, we’d just totally be swimming upstream to maintain successful long careers. I also think because Amy’s music is different from mine, there’s kind of two musical lives playing out here, people don’t get bored by it. We don’t just think of it as music with acoustic guitars. I mean Amy rocks hard. But the reality is it’s a male-dominated business and most women artists have to sell their sexuality to be successful. For men it’s true to a degree but not the same extent. Rock and roll is a male genre and that’s really its power structure.

 

BLADE: How many guitars do you travel with?

SALIERS: We have these massive guitar coffins, they’re called, these travel cases where a bunch can fit in rather than having to line them all up individually. Let’s see, probably about 15-20 including banjo, mandolin and classical guitar, which we use for a few songs.

 

BLADE: Some folks — perhaps the less musically inclined — have asked if it’s really necessary to keep changing guitars every song. Is it because different tunings are used for different songs, overall sonic variety or what? I’m sure you have a guitar tech, right?

SALIERS: It’s all those things, yes. It may seem a bit absurd but trust me, if we didn’t do that or have a guitar tech, which is a very necessary luxury. Our guitar tech Sully has been with us 17 years and really is part of the fabric of the Indigo Girls. But yes, we’d spend half our set just tuning if we didn’t have her. It really contributes a lot to show flow. It really disrupts the flow of things if you have to stand there and keep tuning. So part of it is keeping things interesting for the audience, too. Doing some on mandolin or some on banjo varies it up. If it were all the same sonically it would be very boring.

 

BLADE: Did you have to learn good pitch, both with the guitar and vocally, or did that always just come natural for you? Are there ever times where you go back and think, “Yikes, we went a little flat there.”

SALIERS: Oh yeah, it happens all the time but I grew up in a very musical family and singing in choirs so we were taught to be very mindful of pitch and learned all the little tricks you can do to stay on pitch. I have a good ear and can always tell if something’s a little flat or sharp. I’m very mindful of that, especially on records. In fact, that’s one way Amy and I differ a little. Her feeling would be if a take catches the vibe but is a little pitchy, she’d be more inclined to go with it. I have a little different approach. If the pitch is off, I just can’t live with it.

 

BLADE: How long of a set do you have planned for next week?

SALIERS: Probably an hour to and hour-15 then about four songs with Joan.

 

BLADE: Thanks for your time!

SALIERS: Thanks, take care.

Ferrick at Java Saturday night

Melissa Ferrick, music, gay news, Washington Blade

Melissa Ferrick (Photo by Dese’Rae L. Stage via Wikimedia Commons)

Lesbian musician Melissa Ferrick comes to Jammin’ Java (227 Maple Ave., E Vienna, Va.) on Saturday night at 9 p.m., promoting the release of her new album “the truth is,” which drops June 4 from MPress Records.

The record marks a new sound and new direction in Ferrick’s two-decade recording career. It was recorded live with a full band and produced by Ferrick, mixed Grammy Award-winner Trina Shoemaker and engineered by Rafi Sofer. The album explores personal and emotional territory as it documents the end of a relationship and the beginning of another.

Tickets are $22-$28. For more information, visit jamminjava.com.

Gay firefighter, first responder to Pentagon on 9/11, dies

Phillip Curtis McKee, obituary, gay news, Washington Blade

Phillip Curtis McKee III was a first responder to the first at the Pentagon on 9/11. (courtesy photo)

Phillip Curtis McKee III, a businessman, stained glass artist and firefighter who was among the first to respond to the fire at the Pentagon caused by the Sept. 11, 2001 terrorist attack, died May 31 at a hospital in Fairfax City, Va. He was 41.

Family members attribute McKee’s death to complications from injuries and illness linked to three days of fighting the Pentagon fire following the 9/11 attack, including inhalation of toxic dust, a severe leg injury that resulted in him being wheel chair bound, and a prolonged bout of post-traumatic stress disorder.

McKee’s husband and partner of 15 years, Nopadon McKee, said the injuries forced Phillip McKee to retire from his job as a firefighter due to disability. Although he displayed “tremendous courage” in persevering as an artist, businessman, and author over the next 12 years, the injuries and his struggle with PTSD took its toll, Nopadon McKee said.

“He succumbed to his injuries,” a statement released by the family says.

Phillip McKee was born in Portsmouth, Va., and lived in his early years in Corpus Christi, Kingsville and San Antonio, Texas. He did undergraduate studies at Yale University and graduate studies at Harvard University in Medieval history as well as economic and diplomatic history, and held a fellowship at Princeton University, a biographical statement prepared by family members says.

At the time of his university studies he became interested in the medium of stained glass and eventually became a stained glass artist and owner of a small business selling stained glass artwork, including his own.

Sandra Martinez, McKee’s aunt, said McKee entered a Catholic seminary for a short period of time after completing his university studies before moving to Washington, D.C. to work in the field of computer and internet security with the National Fraud Information Center.

While working in this position he founded Capitol Web Services in 1998 as a part-time web-based business.

According to Martinez, McKee, who had been serving as a volunteer fireman in the Maryland suburbs, informed his family in early 2001 that he decided to change his career and become a firefighter with the Arlington County, Va., Fire Department about six months prior to the 9/11 terrorist attacks.

“[A]after all of that education, I chose to become a firefighter,” McKee wrote in a message appearing on his business website McKeestaindedglass.com.

“Needless to say, this was not greeted with much enthusiasm by my family,” he wrote. “However, a firefighter’s work schedule gave me the free time I needed and I was able to pursue my other passion – glass art!” he wrote.

“Since 9-11, stained glass has become an even greater part of my life as I went through rehabilitation for injuries suffered at the Pentagon,” he said in his website message. “Glass has provided me with a creative outlet that I have sorely needed during this most difficult time in my life and in the life of our country.”

He went on to publish two books on stained glass art, including the acclaimed “Make It or Break It: Stained Glass For Beginners.”

A biographical statement prepared by Nopadon McKee and Martinez says Phillip and Nopadon have been a couple since 1998 and were joined in a religious wedding ceremony in 2006 at Little River United Church of Christ in Annandale, Va.

Nopadon McKee said the two proudly proclaimed their marriage to friends, family members and co-workers even though it is not legally recognized by the government.

In 2009, in spite of his disability and ailments, Phillip and Nopadon began mentoring a teenager they met that year and later adopted. Nate McKee is currently a college student, the biographical statement says.

“Phillip touched many lives throughout his forty years and will be remembered for many great accomplishments, but the most outstanding was his unselfish and brave act on 9-11,” the statement says.

Nopadon McKee, a Metro transit police officer who legally changed his name to McKee after he and Phillip McKee married, said he and Phillip have long been out as gay men at their jobs. He said Phillip McKee was out while working for the Arlington County Fire Department.

The Fire Department and some of its members are expected to participate in a funeral tribute for Phillip McKee scheduled for June 11 that will begin at the fire station in the Cherrydale section of Arlington to which McKee had been assigned at the time of the 9-11 attack at the Pentagon, Martinez said. The service itself is scheduled to take place at Little River United Church of Christ in Annandale at 11 a.m.

A wake and viewing is scheduled to be held Sunday, June 9, at the same church from 4 p.m. to 8 p.m.

Queery: Lauren Morris

Lauren Morris, gay news, Washington Blade

Lauren Morris (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Lauren Morris came to D.C. in 2007 fresh out of high school to attend Howard University and found a home.

She majored in psychology, graduated in 2011 and is now a project leader at City Year, an educational non-profit where she works on beautification projects for D.C. public schools. Morris started volunteering for D.C. Black Pride in 2008 while still in college and last year joined the board. She helped plan entertainment for this year’s event as one of the organization’s eight board members (Black Pride details are at dcblackpride.org).

Morris says Black Pride is important “because it kind of celebrates two major communities that I’m part of whose struggles are very different.”

“Black Pride is the time of the year when we can come together and talk about those issues that are original to us as a black queer community,” she says. “It’s important to do that for all people from my age on up to 99 and it’s important to have that space, which sometimes is hard to find.”

Morris has been dating her girlfriend Kayla Rodriguez for about nine months. Morris enjoys food, yoga, singing, dancing, teaching Sunday school, working for Black Pride, playing the guitar and rock climbing in her spare time. She lives in Alexandria.

How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?

I’ve been out since I was 18. The hardest people to tell were my parents. Though I knew they were open and affirming of other LGBTQ persons, I wasn’t so sure that they’d be as thrilled for their first-born daughter. Luckily, they were and have been very supportive ever since.


Who’s your LGBT hero?

Every LGBTQ youth and student who has to stay quiet about their orientation for survival.

What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?

I’m not big on nightspots, but you might catch me at MOVA or the Loft on a blue moon.

Describe your dream wedding.

My dream wedding, eh? To the woman I’ll be spending the rest of my life with, set for a date sometime during the end of August/beginning of September, small wedding ceremony (bridal party and immediate family members), huge reception (maybe a jazz band?), evening ceremony.

What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?

The educational system and its effects on people of color.

What historical outcome would you change?

None. The stories of my people are stories of survival, of roses growing from concrete, of people overcoming against all odds. That’s something to be proud of, not change.

What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?

Being on campus at Howard University when Barack Obama was elected president for the first time.

On what do you insist?

Children and their laughter are a gift and the most beautiful and healing part of life.

What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?

My last Tweet was “‘If someone hates me for my happiness, I ask God that he sends him happiness so that he forgets mine.’ — Arab Proverb”

If your life were a book, what would the title be?

“Fire”

If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?

Stay home.

What do you believe in beyond the physical world?

I believe in the universe and its powerful energies.

What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?

This is hard. Be strong.

What would you walk across hot coals for?

The better question is who and that’s everyone I love.

What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?

That LGBT persons cannot be or are hardly ever in domestic violence situations.


What’s your favorite LGBT movie?

“Pariah” and “Imagine Me & You”

What’s the most overrated social custom?

Women being forced to smile because it makes others uncomfortable if they don’t.

What trophy or prize do you most covet?

My first-place, citywide spelling bee trophy. I was in third grade and my winning word was “lieutenant.” There’s a picture of me in my hometown newspaper with pigtails and a snaggletoothed smile, clutching my trophy. Adorable, really.

What do you wish you’d known at 18?

Exactly what I had known at that age. I didn’t need to know any more because I knew all of what I needed to know. I’m just grateful for the lessons I was taught.

Why Washington?

Washington is the perfect city for me. It’s far but not too far from home/Michigan and it’s not overwhelming like New York City but is big enough to have suburbs. It’s a cozy blend of suburbia and the city.

Gay firefighter, first responder to Pentagon on 9/11, dies

Phillip Curtis McKee, obituary, gay news, Washington Blade

Phillip Curtis McKee III was a first responder to the first at the Pentagon on 9/11. (courtesy photo)

Phillip Curtis McKee III, a businessman, stained glass artist and firefighter who was among the first to respond to the fire at the Pentagon caused by the Sept. 11, 2001 terrorist attack, died May 31 at a hospital in Fairfax City, Va. He was 41.

Family members attribute McKee’s death to complications from injuries and illness linked to three days of fighting the Pentagon fire following the 9/11 attack, including inhalation of toxic dust, a severe leg injury that resulted in him being wheel chair bound, and a prolonged bout of post-traumatic stress disorder.

McKee’s husband and partner of 15 years, Nopadon McKee, said the injuries forced Phillip McKee to retire from his job as a firefighter due to disability. Although he displayed “tremendous courage” in persevering as an artist, businessman, and author over the next 12 years, the injuries and his struggle with PTSD took its toll, Nopadon McKee said.

“He succumbed to his injuries,” a statement released by the family says.

Phillip McKee was born in Portsmouth, Va., and lived in his early years in Corpus Christi, Kingsville and San Antonio, Texas. He did undergraduate studies at Yale University and graduate studies at Harvard University in Medieval history as well as economic and diplomatic history, and held a fellowship at Princeton University, a biographical statement prepared by family members says.

At the time of his university studies he became interested in the medium of stained glass and eventually became a stained glass artist and owner of a small business selling stained glass artwork, including his own.

Sandra Martinez, McKee’s aunt, said McKee entered a Catholic seminary for a short period of time after completing his university studies before moving to Washington, D.C. to work in the field of computer and internet security with the National Fraud Information Center.

While working in this position he founded Capitol Web Services in 1998 as a part-time web-based business.

According to Martinez, McKee, who had been serving as a volunteer fireman in the Maryland suburbs, informed his family in early 2001 that he decided to change his career and become a firefighter with the Arlington County, Va., Fire Department about six months prior to the 9/11 terrorist attacks.

“[A]after all of that education, I chose to become a firefighter,” McKee wrote in a message appearing on his business website McKeestaindedglass.com.

“Needless to say, this was not greeted with much enthusiasm by my family,” he wrote. “However, a firefighter’s work schedule gave me the free time I needed and I was able to pursue my other passion – glass art!” he wrote.

“Since 9-11, stained glass has become an even greater part of my life as I went through rehabilitation for injuries suffered at the Pentagon,” he said in his website message. “Glass has provided me with a creative outlet that I have sorely needed during this most difficult time in my life and in the life of our country.”

He went on to publish two books on stained glass art, including the acclaimed “Make It or Break It: Stained Glass For Beginners.”

A biographical statement prepared by Nopadon McKee and Martinez says Phillip and Nopadon have been a couple since 1998 and were joined in a religious wedding ceremony in 2006 at Little River United Church of Christ in Annandale, Va.

Nopadon McKee said the two proudly proclaimed their marriage to friends, family members and co-workers even though it is not legally recognized by the government.

In 2009, in spite of his disability and ailments, Phillip and Nopadon began mentoring a teenager they met that year and later adopted. Nate McKee is currently a college student, the biographical statement says.

“Phillip touched many lives throughout his forty years and will be remembered for many great accomplishments, but the most outstanding was his unselfish and brave act on 9-11,” the statement says.

Nopadon McKee, a Metro transit police officer who legally changed his name to McKee after he and Phillip McKee married, said he and Phillip have long been out as gay men at their jobs. He said Phillip McKee was out while working for the Arlington County Fire Department.

The Fire Department and some of its members are expected to participate in a funeral tribute for Phillip McKee scheduled for June 11 that will begin at the fire station in the Cherrydale section of Arlington to which McKee had been assigned at the time of the 9-11 attack at the Pentagon, Martinez said. The service itself is scheduled to take place at Little River United Church of Christ in Annandale at 11 a.m.

A wake and viewing is scheduled to be held Sunday, June 9, at the same church from 4 p.m. to 8 p.m.

Queery: Allan Armus

Alan Armus, gay news, Washington Blade

Alan Armus (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Allan Armus says it’s good for LGBT faith-minded folks to join forces on occasion.

“So often we hear that this or that church is against LGBT people and have taken it upon themselves to speak for some church, synagogue or mosque,” he says. We want to prove that they’re not really representing their faith community. By joining together, we achieve a critical mass. We’re … saying you don’t have a monopoly on what you’re saying on what the faith means and how it should treat LGBT people.”

The 30th anniversary Pride Week Interfaith Service is Tuesday evening at 7:30 p.m. at First Congregational United Church of Christ (945 G St., N.W.). Rev. Harry Knox, president of Religious Coalition for Reproductive Choice will speak. Shirli Hughes & Ovation will provide music (details available at capitalpride.org under the events listings). About 200 attend most years.

“It is my belief that every religion has some element of truth and no religion has all the truth,” Armus, treasurer at Bet Mishpachah, says. “And I think these religions that say everybody must be my religion are misguided.”

Armus has been active at Bet Mishpachah since he came to Washington in 1983 He got involved with the Washington Area Gay & Lesbian Interfaith Alliance (which changed into the Celebration of the Spirit Coalition in 2000) in 1985, just a few years after it formed. This year’s Interfaith Service will incorporate elements of services from previous years for the anniversary.

Armus, a 69-year-old Fairview, N.J., native is retired from Verizon Communications where he was director for finance until 2000. His late partner, Mark Goldfarb, died in 1999.

Armus lives in Arlington and enjoys music, volunteering, theater, motorcycles, meditation, reading and massage in his free time.

How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell? 

I came out to myself in 1979, then gradually came out to family and friends. It was no big deal to my family and my late partner’s family. We were both loved and accepted completely. The only question I got was, “Why did you wait so long to say it?”

Who’s your LGBT hero? 

Harvey Milk

What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?

The Eagle

Describe your dream wedding.

One with my dream man.

What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?

Social justice for everyone.

What historical outcome would you change? 

The Holocaust

What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime? 

Shortly after moving to the D.C. area, I was invited to the opening night party of the Paul Taylor Dance Company and met the lead male dancer, whom I had a crush on. I got so flabbergasted upon meeting him that I couldn’t speak and just babbled incoherently. He smiled at me, then walked away to meet others. From that time on I knew I would love it here in D.C.

On what do you insist?

Punctuality and honesty

What was your last Facebook post or Tweet? 

A snarky remark to a snarky friend who was stuck at an airport; something about check-in vs. chicken.

If your life were a book, what would the title be?

“He Did the Best He Could”

If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?

Nothing. Now if they found a pill that could make me lose weight and have big muscles, then we could talk.

What do you believe in beyond the physical world?

That the creative power of the universe made everyone of us to experience our lives to the fullest. That the spirit within us is a gift from that source that we must return in the same or better condition than when we received it. That if you look deeply into the eyes of another you can see that divine spirit within them as well of the reflection of your own spirit.

What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?

Don’t turn our friends and supporters into our enemies. Be grateful for whatever help they can provide. It’s OK to push for our rights, but don’t push so hard that someone gets hurt.

What would you walk across hot coals for?

To eliminate groundless hatred and bigotry.

What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?

That all gay men are limp wrested, effeminate queens; only some of us are that way.

What’s your favorite LGBT movie? 

Short Bus”

What’s the most overrated social custom?

People asking, “How are you?” when they really don’t care.

What trophy or prize do you most covet?

I don’t seek any prizes (other than the Publishers Clearing House Grand Prize.)  If someone says thank you or good job after I’ve done something, that’s great.

What do you wish you’d known at 18? 

That I was gay. When I look back, I recognize all the signs, but I was just very naive and oblivious to them in myself.

Why Washington?

I moved here with my job at the break up of the Bell System.